Doctor Phil’ing Doctor Phil
There comes a time in every man’s life when they have to step back and look in the mirror. To see themselves through the eyes of everyone else. And if they won’t, someone else will do it for them. It’s called an intervention. For Phil Mcgraw, that day has arrived. Doctor Phil’ing Doctor Phil is painful, both for fans of the show and those close to Mr. Mcgraw. Tough love can be a hard pill to swallow, but it’s for the best.
Studying Phil McGraw leads to the emergence of certain patterns, namely his obvious and undealt with personal flaws. And although I prefer not to speak ill of women, this case leaves me no choice. Doctor Phil’s entire life is a coping mechanism for his most obvious failure, that of his marriage to Robin Mcgraw. Or Doctor Robin Mcgraw, if we are following the logic of the Doctor Phil Show.
On television, the pair smiles through their best Brady Bunch impersonation. But behind closed doors, and during commercial breaks, that thin veneer is shattered. Doctor Phil is a control freak who uses his platform to judge and analyze the lives and personal choices of other people. While on air, Doctor Phil has the authority he so desperately craves. And he eats it up because he gets off on that tiny window of control, his very own illusion of superiority.
But is it all a farce? What is the dynamic between Doctor Phil and Doctor Robin actually like?
What follows is speculation based on the observations of an untrained man, also known as Doctor Phil’ing Doctor Phil. For the purposes of this article, that man’s name is Doctor Geronimo.
Robin is a lush who isn’t the least bit attracted to her husband. Think Melania Trump with a drinking problem. Robin knows Dr. Phil is too weak to end the relationship, and would never do so herself because he is the enabler to her alcoholism. But make no mistake about it, she carries within her heart a deep well of resentment for Phil Mcgraw.
And that brings us to the saddest part of the story. Doctor Phil is madly in love with his wife, and can’t face the fact she doesn’t feel the same. His denial is so strong it’s a part of his identity. So he lets her drink, and walks her off the show to ensure she doesn’t fall flat on her face. Rumor has it Robin’s drinking is at its worst during commercial breaks. By the end of taping, she can rarely stand on her own volition.
Spousal abuse takes many forms, and isn’t always an anger fueled man physically striking his wife. Take Dr. Phil and Robin for example, he has never once raised his hand to her. But the abuse is still there. Everytime she berates him in public, or goes off on one of her famous vitriol filled slurring tirades about his inadequacies, or sneaks off in an Uber to visit any man on Tinder with a cul de sac not named Phil Mcgraw, the abuse is there. And whether he admits it or not, that abuse takes its toll.
Doctor Phil cannot control his wife, nor does she wish to be controlled. He can’t even keep tabs on her. The more he tries to analyze her behavior, the more unruly she becomes. As soon as filming ends, she swipes right and takes off in an Uber. Next time you watch the show, check his eyes for quiet desperation.
In their personal life, everyone knows she’s a raging alcoholic and views him as a laughing stock. The Doctor Phil Show is the only place he retains even an inkling of control, and he relishes every moment of it.
It’s unhealthy to live a lie, and the cruel charade must come to end. Here’s to hoping the two part ways for good, so she can take responsibility for her alcoholism and begin a life of sobriety, and so Dr. Phil can start his own recovery process. It isn’t easy to leave the love of your life, or to admit your long lost sense of control over your actions and reality. Tough love hurts, but at least it’s real.
This has been Doctor Phil’ing Doctor Phil, with Doctor Geronimo.